I read an interesting article in Oprah Magazine. Dr. Phil wrote a piece on how we humans share one of the biggest fears in life: the fear of rejection.
He wrote that we all long to be accepted, and "We are at the pinnacle of life when we feel involved in the world, whether that means being part of a couple, a family, or a group of friends or colleagues. We want to belong."
Before I took writing seriously, I never really thought about the fear of rejection. But it was there. Fear of going on that job interview, knowing there was a possibility they'd choose someone else. Fear of submitting that offer on a piece of property, knowing the seller might laugh at our numbers. Even way back in high school, I remember that fear of walking up to a group, hoping they'd include me. (Heck, I still feel that fear in social situations)
But now? As a writer? Fear of rejection is ingrained into my daily life. It would be so nice if everything we wrote was loved by everyone. But no matter where we are in our publishing journeys, we'll always feel the fear of rejection.
- The new author fears she doesn't have what it takes. She fears her skills will never be good enough.
- The agented author fears her agent will not be able to sell her work. She fears that all the hard work to snag the agent was for naught.
- The indie author fears her work will disappear among the digital shelves. She fears the gatekeepers were right.
- The debut author fears her sparkling new book will fall flat. She fears low sales will stall a budding career.
- The experienced, bestselling author fears she was a one hit or two hit wonder. She fears she'll never unearth that magic again.
That's what I struggle with every single day. Feeling that fear of rejection, yet taking that leap anyway.
How about you, writers? Do you let the fear of rejection hold you back? Or do you take giant leaps anyway? Please share!